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We covered idiots, we covered douchebags… What about the “nice” guy? What does he do that makes him too nice of a guy? And why does he always finish last?
1. The nice guy is too agreeable.
Men are naturally more aggressive than women; and admittedly or not, most women are somewhat attracted to that. The nice guy controls his testosterone and is too easy going. He never starts debates, he never says no, he can’t decide where to go or what to do, and he very rarely uses sarcasm. Testosterone levels in front of women should be toned down, but not entirely gone.
2. The nice guy takes it slow.
The nice guy doesn’t just tone down testosterone in his attitude, he tones it down in the bedroom too. Men, if you all want “a lady in the streets, but a freak in the sheets,” what makes you think women don’t want “a gentleman in the streets, but a thug in the sheets”?
3. The nice guy responds to text messages immediately.
Women love to play games—especially against too nice of guys. Why is it that women want to chase jerks, and only play games with nice guys? Ya got me. But I do know that if a man responds to a text message immediately, a woman might delay her response back just to see if his next response will be just as immediate, or now delayed as well. So instead, try delaying your response time slightly (more than fifteen seconds, less than ten minutes). This will accomplish two goals: One, that’s what the perfect guy does—not the nice guy; two, that’s how you get perfect responses—not nice, idiotic, or douchey responses that get sent before thinking.
4. The nice guy always answers his phone when it rings.
Similar to responding rapidly to text messages, the nice guy always answers his phone. Midnight at a packed bar…he answers it and walks outside. During the fourth quarter of the Super Bowl…he answers it and steps into the kitchen. During a guy’s night in the middle of an intense COD round…he answers it and pauses the game for everyone. Don’t be a “nice” guy, and definitely don’t be a whipped guy. If you’re busy, be a normal buy, and call her back.
5. The nice guy bails on plans with his friends for a woman who bails on plans with him.
Bailing on plans with pals is the worst. Your friends were there before her, and they’ll be there after her; so putting her before your friends shows her that she’s more important, even if it’s temporary. Cliché, but true, you should never prioritize someone that only makes you an option.
6. The nice guy gives too many compliments.
A compliment is appreciated. A compliment every day is even appreciated. But too many compliments all at once is awkward, it shows your desperateness, insecurities, and inexperience. Guys, don’t quit giving compliments—just compliment her once…not everything she’s wearing, not multiple times on the same date.
7. The nice guy wears his heart on his sleeve.
Part of what makes the nice guy finish last may not even be in his actions, but in his head. He wears his heart on his sleeve and falls in love hard and fast. So whether he’s too nice or not, once he falls for a girl, if she doesn’t like him back he’s already set himself up for heartbreak.
8. The nice guy is too giving.
Nice guys give and give and give without asking for anything in return, which makes them nice guys (no pun), but also sets them up to get burned. Because they don’t ask for anything in return, they never get anything in return. They’re easily taken advantage of (by both their friends and their lovers), and finish last in love…and money in the bank.
9. The nice guy is too respectful.
It’s one thing to put your phone on silent on a date, and expect the same courtesy from your guest. It’s one thing to open the door for a woman. It’s one thing to pay your date’s way. It’s one thing to place your date’s order. But it’s another thing to suffocate an I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T woman! The nice guy is extremely (i.e.: outside of moderation, too, overly, so much so that it’s a bad thing) gentlemanly.
10. The nice guy is too forgiving.
When a girl cheats on a nice guy, he stays with her. When a girl lies to a nice guy, he tells her a fable. When a girl borrows money from a nice guy, he doesn’t write an IOU. Numbers 1-9 are all fine lines to walk (i.e.: please respond to our texts, please continue complimenting us, please respect our hearts and bodies—but, please do so in moderation), but Number 10 is the biggest flaw. No fine line here. The “nice” guy earns his highest badge by letting women walk all over him.
By all means, BE NICE and BE GREAT! But for your own good, don’t be too nice…